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Use when someone is confused about a recurring relationship pattern, struggling with closeness or distance, or asking why certain dynamics keep repeating across relationships. Triggers on: "애착 유형", "attachment style", "불안 애착", "회피 애착", "관계 패턴", "왜 이런 관계가 반복되나", "친밀감이 무서워", "자꾸 버림받는 것 같아", "너무 의존적인 것 같아", "혼자 있는 게 편해", "관계에서 불안해". Best for: recurring relational difficulties, understanding why intimacy is hard, diagnosing pursuer-distancer cycles. Not for: specific conflict resolution or communication advice — this is pattern-level analysis.
How this skill is triggered — by the user, by Claude, or both
Slash command
/self:attachment-style-mirrorThe summary Claude sees in its skill listing — used to decide when to auto-load this skill
**Use when:**
Use when:
Not for:
Step 1 — Gather specific relational data. Ask about a concrete situation or pattern:
Step 2 — Map to the four styles.
| Style | Core belief | Characteristic behavior |
|---|---|---|
| Secure | I'm worthy; others are reliably available | Comfortable with intimacy, recovers from ruptures |
| Anxious (Preoccupied) | I must work to secure love | Hypervigilant to rejection, escalates under stress, needs reassurance |
| Avoidant (Dismissing) | Closeness is dangerous | Withdraws when intense, minimizes own needs, values independence |
| Disorganized (Fearful-Avoidant) | I want closeness AND fear it | Oscillates between approach and retreat, high reactivity |
Step 3 — Name the triggers. Each style has characteristic activating situations.
Step 4 — Map the coping mechanism. Anxious = pursue/escalate. Avoidant = withdraw/minimize. Disorganized = freeze/approach-retreat.
Step 5 — Identify the relational dynamic. Common pattern: anxious + avoidant creates pursuer-distancer cycle where each person's coping activates the other's fear.
Step 6 — Name the growth path. Specific behavioral next steps, not generic advice.
Attachment Analysis
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Likely dominant style: [secure / anxious / avoidant / disorganized]
Key evidence: [specific behaviors or feelings indicating this]
Characteristic trigger: [what activated the attachment system]
Coping mechanism: [automatic response to the trigger]
Relational dynamic created: [how this interacted with the other person]
The underlying fear: [named plainly]
Growth edge: [specific next behavioral step]
Context note: [if style varies by relationship type, note it]
| Claude | You |
|---|---|
| Maps described behaviors to attachment framework | Share specific relational patterns and moments |
| Names the trigger and coping mechanism precisely | Confirm whether the pattern resonates |
| Identifies the relational dynamic being co-created | Sit with what the pattern reveals (the real work) |
| Provides a growth path specific to this style | Practice the growth edge — often slowly, with support |
ego-state-identifier — when the pattern feels like switching between inner voices or statesfear-inventory — when the underlying fear needs its own dedicated explorationidentity-explorer — when attachment patterns feel tied to core identity questionsvalues-explorer — when relationship values and behavior are misalignednpx claudepluginhub newkayak12/claude-skills --plugin selfAnalyzes relationship dynamics using a five-layer structural framework and psychoanalytic depth. Helps users see unconscious patterns in relationships.
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