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Use when someone is confused about a recurring relationship pattern, struggling with closeness or distance, or asking why certain dynamics keep repeating across relationships. Triggers on: "애착 유형", "attachment style", "불안 애착", "회피 애착", "관계 패턴", "왜 이런 관계가 반복되나", "친밀감이 무서워", "자꾸 버림받는 것 같아", "너무 의존적인 것 같아", "혼자 있는 게 편해", "관계에서 불안해". Best for: recurring relational difficulties, understanding why intimacy is hard, diagnosing pursuer-distancer cycles. Not for: specific conflict resolution or communication advice — this is pattern-level analysis.

Use when someone is confused about why they reacted the way they did — especially when it felt automatic, disproportionate, childlike, or like they heard a parental voice in their head. Triggers on: "왜 이렇게 반응했지", "자동으로 나왔어", "어린애처럼 굴었어", "부모님 목소리 같은", "inner child", "두 가지 목소리", "관계에서 같은 패턴이 반복돼", "ego state". Best for: understanding automatic reactions, mapping relational transaction patterns, finding the Adult response. Not for: general therapy or trauma processing — refer to a professional when responses involve deep distress.

Use when someone wants to look at their life from a distance — not a specific decision, but the whole shape of it. Especially suited to life transitions, major milestones, or the feeling of running on autopilot. Triggers on: "삶을 돌아보고 싶어", "내 인생을 점검하고 싶어", "자동적으로 살고 있는 것 같아", "examined life", "삶의 의미", "인생 점검", "스토아 철학", "죽음 앞에서 생각해보면". Best for: major life transitions, mid-life reflection, feeling like you're living someone else's life. Not for: specific decisions (use decision-maker or tradeoff-articulator), values clarification alone (use values-explorer).

Use when the user is blocked by fear, avoiding something important, catastrophizing, or wants to understand what's really holding them back. Suitable when someone has insight about what they want but stays stuck — this almost always has a fear structure underneath. Triggers on: "두려움", "fear", "무서운 것", "걱정", "못 하는 이유", "두려움 직면", "시작이 무서워", "실패가 두려워", "거절이 두려워", "판단받는 게 무서워", "최악의 경우". Best for: naming fears precisely, distinguishing protective from limiting fears, designing the smallest experiment. Not for: anxiety disorders or phobias requiring clinical support — recognize the limit and refer when needed.

Use when someone wants to design their life or work more intentionally — by finding what creates deep engagement (flow) or getting clearer on what to eliminate (anti-goals). Triggers on: "몰입", "flow", "하기 싫은 것", "anti-goal", "원하지 않는 것", "몰입 조건", "삶 설계", "인생 설계", "이상적인 하루", "최악의 하루", "워크 디자인", "어떤 삶을 원하는지". Best for: career move design, chronically under-engaged or over-drained work, articulating what you want via inversion. Not for: specific skill development (use strength-growth-mapper), values conflicts (use values-explorer).