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Apply Trust-Building

Establish and sustain the trust foundation of your management relationships through consistent behavior across four dimensions: follow-through, candor, fairness, and vulnerability — because trust is what makes feedback land, direction be followed, and problems surface before they become crises.

Why This Is Best Practice

Adopted by: Stephen Covey's "Speed of Trust" framework is used in leadership development at FranklinCovey (40,000+ organizations globally) and is required reading in management programs at multiple business schools; Brené Brown's "Dare to Lead" trust research (BRAVING inventory) is widely used in organizational leadership training and was cited by 86% of Fortune 100 CHROs in a 2021 survey as influencing their leadership development programs; Edmondson's "Fearless Organization" research documents specific manager behaviors that build or destroy trust in team settings across 150+ organizations Impact: Gallup's 2022 engagement meta-analysis found that employee trust in their manager is the single highest correlation with engagement — higher than compensation, benefits, or role fit; PricewaterhouseCoopers' "Global Trust Study" (2023, 4,000 workers, 15 countries) found that 60% of employees do not trust their employer — and that trust was determined almost entirely by their direct manager's behavior, not organizational policy; Edelman's Trust Barometer (2023) found that "my employer" was trusted more than any other institution — but individual manager relationships determined whether that organizational trust was experienced daily Why best: Trust is not a personality trait — it is a behavioral output produced by consistent action over time across specific dimensions; a manager who is likable, well-intentioned, and technically excellent but who fails to follow through on commitments, withholds difficult truths, or applies inconsistent standards will not be trusted regardless of their intentions; understanding trust as a set of observable behaviors makes it learnable, improvable, and repairable

Sources: Covey "The Speed of Trust" (Free Press, 2006); Brown "Dare to Lead" (Random House, 2018); Edmondson "The Fearless Organization" (Jossey-Bass, 2018); PwC Global Trust Study (2023)

Steps

1. Start with small commitments and keep every single one

Trust is built through accumulated evidence of reliability. The fastest way to build initial trust as a new manager is to make small, explicit commitments and then keep them — not once, but consistently.

What this looks like:

"I'll send you the context doc by Friday." → Send it by Friday.
"I'll find out about [resource/decision] and get back to you by Wednesday." → Do it by Wednesday.
"I'll be in these one-on-ones unless there's a genuine emergency." → Be in them.

The compounding effect: each kept commitment is a trust deposit; the trust account grows faster than it appears because the team is watching for evidence of reliability and updates their assessment with each data point.

The asymmetry of broken commitments: one broken commitment requires approximately 5–10 kept commitments to restore the equivalent trust level (Covey's research finding). This asymmetry means the most important trust-building practice is scrupulously making only commitments you can keep, not making big promises.

If you cannot keep a commitment, communicate before the deadline — not after:

"I said I'd have [X] to you by Friday. I'm not going to make that deadline. 
Here's why, and here's my new commitment: [specific revised date]."

Proactive communication of a missed commitment costs less trust than silence followed by a missed deadline.

2. Be honest when it's uncomfortable

Covey's most counterintuitive trust principle: honesty in moments when it would be easier to be diplomatic or vague is the highest-trust-building behavior available to a manager. When a manager tells the team something they don't want to hear, directly and with care, they demonstrate that what they say can be trusted — because they say difficult things too.

Common situations where managers fail this test:

• Giving vague feedback to avoid discomfort
• Pretending a change is positive when it's mixed
• Not naming a performance gap because the employee is going through something
• Telling the team "everything is fine" when things are not fine

The antidote: name the uncomfortable thing, with care:

"I want to be straight with you about something that's hard to say. [Direct, honest statement]. I'm telling you this because I think you deserve an honest picture from me."

A manager who can be honest when it's uncomfortable is trusted with more important information — because direct reports know that what they share won't be sugarcoated or weaponized.

3. Follow consistent, fair standards

Trust erodes fastest when people observe inconsistency — different standards applied to different people, or the same standard applied differently depending on the manager's relationship with the person.

Common inconsistency failure modes:

• Holding one person to deadlines and accommodating another on the same expectation
• Giving credit publicly to people you're close to and forgetting to credit those you're less close to
• Adjusting expectations when a high performer pushes back and holding them firm when a lower performer does the same

The practice: when making a decision about an individual, ask "would I make the same decision for everyone in a comparable situation?" If not, examine why — and either adjust the decision or be explicit about the legitimate reason for the difference.

Transparency about reasoning builds trust even when the decision is not what someone wanted:

"I know this isn't the outcome you hoped for. Here's the reasoning that led me here: [explicit]. Is there anything in that reasoning you want to push back on?"

4. Model vulnerability before expecting it

Brown's core trust finding from "Dare to Lead": managers who model vulnerability — admitting mistakes, naming uncertainty, asking for help — create the conditions where team members feel safe to be vulnerable in return. Managers who maintain a performance of certainty and infallibility create team cultures where admitting problems is dangerous.

Specific vulnerability behaviors that build trust:

• Admitting you got something wrong in front of the team: "I made the wrong call on [X]. Here's what I should have done and here's what I'm changing."
• Naming genuine uncertainty: "I don't know the answer to that. I'll find out and get back to you."
• Asking for the team's help: "I'm trying to solve [problem] and I don't have all the perspective I need. Can you help me understand how this looks from where you sit?"

The trust-building effect of public vulnerability: it makes every team member's admission of uncertainty, mistake, or need for help more acceptable — because the manager has already modeled that these things are safe to express.

5. Extend trust before it has been earned — deliberately

Brown's "BRAVING" framework includes a counterintuitive element: trust is given before it is proven. Managers who require proof of trustworthiness before extending trust create a catch-22 — employees cannot demonstrate trustworthiness without being trusted first.

Practical application: extend trust to a new employee by giving them a meaningful assignment before they've fully demonstrated they can handle it. State the trust explicitly:

"I'm going to give you ownership of [X]. That means decisions are yours 
to make — I'll be here if you want to think something through, but I won't 
second-guess your choices. I trust you with this."

Explicitly extending trust is more powerful than silently hoping the employee earns it. The act of explicit trust is itself trust-building.

6. Diagnose and repair trust when it breaks

Trust breaks in specific, identifiable ways. The repair strategy depends on the break type:

Trust break	Cause	Repair approach
Broken commitment	Failed to follow through	Acknowledge specifically, explain (don't excuse), make a new commitment and keep it
Discovered dishonesty	Said something that turned out to be false	Acknowledge the discrepancy, explain what happened, demonstrate consistency going forward
Inconsistent treatment	Applied standards differently	Name the inconsistency, explain any legitimate reason, or correct the inconsistency
Violated confidence	Shared something told in private	Acknowledge the breach, commit specifically to what you'll do differently, accept that rebuilding takes time

Trust repair requires acknowledgment before correction. Skipping the acknowledgment and going directly to "here's what I'll do differently" signals defensiveness rather than genuine understanding of the impact.

Rules

• Make only commitments you can keep — one broken commitment requires 5–10 kept commitments to restore equivalent trust; scale commitments to what is achievable
• Communicate early when a commitment is at risk — proactive warning before a missed deadline costs less trust than silence plus the miss
• Be honest when it's uncomfortable — managers who say easy things are believed; managers who say hard things honestly are trusted
• Model vulnerability before requiring it — public admission of mistakes and uncertainty makes the same from the team safe and expected
• Diagnose trust breaks specifically — different types of trust breaks require different repairs; generic "I'll do better" repairs nothing

Common Mistakes

• Over-promising to signal ambition: making commitments beyond capacity builds initial enthusiasm and destroys trust on the first missed deadline; under-promise and over-deliver.
• Maintaining a performance of certainty: pretending to have all the answers signals inauthenticity and makes the team less likely to surface real problems; admitted uncertainty builds trust.
• Inconsistent standards with an explanation that's really a rationalization: "they have a harder situation" — applied consistently only to people you're close to — is affinity bias, not compassion; apply the same standard across comparable situations.
• Repairing trust only with words: "I've learned from this and I'll do better" is a claim; the evidence for the repair is the subsequent behavior; words without follow-through behavior re-break the trust.
• Treating trust as a one-time establishment: trust requires ongoing maintenance — once-earned trust erodes without continued consistency; managers who build trust early and then stop the behaviors that built it find it has silently degraded.

When NOT to Use

• When the trust break is caused by genuine ethical failure (not a mistake but an intention to deceive or harm) — trust repair practices address behavioral inconsistency; deliberate harm requires HR and potentially legal involvement, not a trust-repair framework.
• As a substitute for addressing a systemic organizational trust problem — if the team doesn't trust the organization (not just the manager), individual manager trust-building is insufficient; organizational trust requires organizational action.